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You Can't Bake the Cake Faster by Rurning Up the Heat

November 15, 20222 min read

Several years ago, while I was home schooling Matthew, I was experiencing a particularly difficult week which sometimes happened when Matthew would take a few steps backward in his interaction or language. As you may have heard me say in the past, our children’s growth is not linear and sometimes we do face set-backs just when we thought our child was making nice progress.

Back in the home-schooling days, I had a camera installed in his room so that I could watch some of the other teachers who spent time in the room with him and could provide guidance and feedback. For eight hours a day, I would either be in his “classroom” with him or watching him with another teacher. One day in particular I was watching and feeling frustrated and defeated. I called my friend Nicole (who was also home-schooling her son) and sought some advice for a specific issue I was trying to address. The advice she gave was brilliant (as usual), but unexpected. What I expected her to say was something along the lines of “try modeling the sentences” or make sure he is getting the sensory input he needs.” Instead she said “turn off the camera.”

The thought had never occurred to me. I had placed this pressure on myself to be so committed to watching every minute as if I could somehow help him more if I drove myself nuts. Nicole correctly pointed out that Matthew was just having a bad day (or a bad week) and that I should just allow that without needing to jump in and try to “fix” every difficult minute. Of course Nicole and I helped each other troubleshoot issues and make improvements to our home-school programs, but the reminder to take a step back and give myself a break was so profound and represented a new and powerful form of “improvement.” So if you, like me, are inclined to try to stay on top of every minute detail, give yourself and your child a break every once in a while and “turn off the camera.”

Andrea is an educator and coach who specializes in supporting parents of autistic and neuro-divergent children and teens.

Andrea Pollack

Andrea is an educator and coach who specializes in supporting parents of autistic and neuro-divergent children and teens.

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Andrea is a mom of two young adult children, a former lawyer in New York City, and an advocate for parents of autistic children and teens. When her autistic son was not thriving at school, Andrea left her 19-year law career to homeschool him. She later went on to earn her Master's in Education so that she could share her knowledge most effectively and help parents get swift and lasting results without years of trial and error. Now, with years of experience and research under her belt, Andrea is sharing her wisdom with the world through Autism Parent Solutions. 

My son and I both achieved tremendous growth

The program offered not only helpful strategies but also new perspectives that help me understand and relate better to my son. The frequency and severity of his aggressive outbursts have decreased significantly. He and I have a better understanding of each other and a better relationship overallThe program leader meets you where you are and offers very practical ways to troubleshoot challenges. APS helped me be relieved of my dreaded parental guilt and has made me feel successful!! And most importantly, my son is happier as a result of our mutual growth.

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