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APS has helped me to lean in to and listen to my son more
closely and trust my own intuition and confidence as a parent. Through the
years I read dozens of articles and books and none could even come close to
what I learned with Andrea’s help. I know no matter what the next parenting milestone
is with my son I am better equipped to handle it,


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Recycled Advice

February 15, 20232 min read

Several years ago, my friend Nicole and I, who were both home schooling our sons at the time, spoke on the phone at least four times a week.  We shared stories, triumphs, challenges, tears, everything. And laughter – so much laughter. We lived in different states and our boys were very different, but our parenting experiences were much the same. We spoke in great detail about how to get our kids to make eye contact, to tolerate a trip to the grocery store, and about really random challenges like how to get them to wipe their noses on tissues instead of sleeves. One day I asked Nicole for some advice on a topic I can no longer recall. Nicole listened patiently and carefully and offered me the kind of wise advice she always offered.

“It’s genius advice,” I said excitedly.

“It’s recycled advice, Nicole responded.

“What’s recycled advice?” I asked.

“It’s the same advice you gave me last year when I was having this issue,” she said, and laughed her bold infectious laugh.

I love this story because it reminds me of the richness of our friendship, and of how smart and funny my friend is. But I also love it because it reminds me of the power and value of parent support. The story illustrates that it is sometimes easier to see the solution to a problem when you are not the one going through it. Though I had not yet encountered the issue with my son, I was able to help Nicole with some strategies to help her son. Then, remarkably, when the same challenge arose with my son, I could no longer see the solution, but Nicole could. I was lucky to have a friend like Nicole with whom I could share daily joys and struggles, and we both built our parenting skills helping each other. I am hopeful that the Autism Parents Connect community can serve as that supportive friend for other parents, even if you are lucky enough to have a friend like Nicole.


*Nicole read this post and commented that the story also highlights that we often have the answers within, but that it can be hard to access them when other stressful beliefs get in our way. Great point as always, Nicole.

Andrea is an educator and coach who specializes in supporting parents of autistic and neuro-divergent children and teens.

Andrea Pollack

Andrea is an educator and coach who specializes in supporting parents of autistic and neuro-divergent children and teens.

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Andrea is a mom of two young adult children, a former lawyer in New York City, and an advocate for parents of autistic children and teens. When her autistic son was not thriving at school, Andrea left her 19-year law career to homeschool him. She later went on to earn her Master's in Education so that she could share her knowledge most effectively and help parents get swift and lasting results without years of trial and error. Now, with years of experience and research under her belt, Andrea is sharing her wisdom with the world through Autism Parent Solutions. 

My son and I both achieved tremendous growth

The program offered not only helpful strategies but also new perspectives that help me understand and relate better to my son. The frequency and severity of his aggressive outbursts have decreased significantly. He and I have a better understanding of each other and a better relationship overallThe program leader meets you where you are and offers very practical ways to troubleshoot challenges. APS helped me be relieved of my dreaded parental guilt and has made me feel successful!! And most importantly, my son is happier as a result of our mutual growth.

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